You are happily going about your "single" life and then suddenly you meet the man of your dreams. You date (and eat), get engaged (celebrate & eat), get married (eat some more), buy a house (eating gets worse), have a couple of kids (cravings make you EAT!), and suddenly you realize that you're heavier than you've ever been. Now of course, your supportive spouse is still very much in love with you, the compliments have not stopped and he assures you that he'll love you no matter your weight. Now I love the scenerio I really do, but the only thing that bothers me is that there is a chance that your weight IS an issue for your spouse and he just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I can remember a time not long after I hit my goal weight, I asked my hubby if he was glad I had lost the weight. When I say that I had barely gotten the question fully out of my mouth before he answered, without hesitation, "YES"...I was like huh?? REALLY??? So I then asked him why he never said anything and he said he was trying to figure out a way to say something; poor dude. Can you honestly picture any man in his right mind telling his wife he wants her to lose weight???? I can't picture a man who likes having teeth! I'm sure Jason wudda caught 5 accross the lips for telling me something like that. *giggling* The truth is, I KNEW I needed to lose weight, I wasn't no dang on size 18/20 when he met me and unless he had expressed a sudden interest in plus sized women (WHICH HE HAD NOT), I realy should have been on my weight loss grind a long time ago. Like it or not, I'm a relatively honest chick. MOST fuller figured women are not so because they really want to be. You're heavier than you wanna be so you start to complain about your belly, thighs, blah...blah...blah. The sexy nighties that you used to shimmy into have been replaced by jogging pants and big baggy t-shirts. YOU don't even feel sexy so how in the world do you think your man feels?? If you happen to be a sistah who is proudly rocking her curves then this post ain't for you; BUT... if you are on a diet every other week then it's seriously time to take action.
Oh and fellas, don't be so quick to show this post to your girl...especially if YOU'RE sporting extra around the middle yourself. News flash, women like muscles! Yall like to look at Beyonce'?? Well Tyrese is looking good to us! Fellas yall need to tighten it up too...
Ultimately I lost weight for a healthier me but I also did it for my husband and there's nothing wrong with that kind of a motive. You are a representative of your spouse and vice versa so why not look your very best? If you met him/her at a smaller weight then it's even MORE important to get back to how it all began. Team up with your Boo today. Go for walks after dinner each night, take turns cooking healthier meals, support each other as you BOTH find your way to a healthier lifestyle.
I'm not saying that packing on a few pounds means that your spouse is somehow secretly wishing you to lose weight. What I AM saying is that the fact that they haven't commented that you need to lose weight doesn't mean he (or SHE) ain't thinking it...
MIzcardio4lyf~
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